“Four out of five dentists recommend fluoride” What about the fifth dentist? Did he not get paid off, or is it that the fifth dentist can think for themselves?
How many times have people let major choices in their life be dictated by popular opinion? When I first started dating my boyfriend, it was a highly unpopular decision with many people. I did have one friend in my corner about what I chose to do. I dubbed her “The fifth dentist” since she was not buying into the bullshit that surrounded my dating choice at first. She saw for herself what the truth was, and reassured me that she would support whatever I wished to do.
Many people fall into the trap of not seeing things objectively. They see and hear only what they want to. This is why people can be easily manipulated into believing a bunch of lies. We all need that one friend who sees the big picture, and is able to think for themselves. The rumors that swirled around about me were completely false. I was being attacked on Facebook with startling hatred on a regular basis.
I did not fight back, I simply blocked the offenders and went on with my life, doing my best to not pour gasoline on the fire. The biggest benefit to doing this is that I showed my critics I was not who they thought I was. Life is all about choices. I can make the decision to go after someone or I can let things unfold and let people observe and draw their own conclusions. This is what freedom is all about. I certainly never want anyone to approve of me to gain friends. What I do want, is for people to see for themselves how things really are.
There is an old adage that says “Believe none of what you hear and only half of what you see.”
That is a wise statement. The reality is that we never really know the circumstances behind what we hear. There are always three sides to every story; your side, my side, and the truth.
The friends to keep are the ones who admit being misinformed and are able to see that. In my own experience, I have gained a few new friends this way. There is nothing wrong with admitting to judging a situation before knowing all sides to it. That is part of being human. Just remember that four out of five dentists like fluoride. The fifth dentist sees through that and knows something we don’t.
Don’t always follow the crowd. Like The Beatles say “Think For Yourself”