When I was a kid, my mother often said “Do not air your dirty linen in public.” This is wise advice especially now when one mistake can be all over social networks in the blink of an eye. In the age of sharing everything, we have forgotten that some things need to remain private. I hate seeing couples fighting online, trashing one another only to see in the next few days all is forgiven.
You can delete the posts, but remember that someone saw it and may have a screenshot. There are folks out there who care far too much about gossip and love hearing stories of other people’s misfortune. Why give them ammunition? I by no means have all the answers, but I know this; when you put a relationship problem out there for all the world to see, you bring more problems than solutions. This is a dangerous game where we wind up casting someone as the victim and the other one as the villain. This exchange never seems to end well.
I have witnessed friends of mine taking to Facebook to complain about their other half. I personally despise this. I do my best to not post anything like this, not because my relationship is perfect, but because I know that any problems we have will be magnified if made public. There are always three sides to every story: your side, their side, and somewhere in the middle is the truth. When I see a serious issue brought to light on Facebook, I often wonder what good will come of that. Couples split up all the time for various reasons. Do you really want to make your issue into everyone else’s water cooler talk?
How did I learn to be this way? Simple. I used to be one of those people airing my dirty linen in public. The truth is that even though the other person may have in fact done awful things to me, I looked like an immature fool airing it for all to see. Posting all of that only made me look worse. It backfired in the worst way possible. Trust me, it does far more harm than good.
A word to the wise, privately message people if you are having a major problem. Talk in person, see a therapist, do what you must to get through your issues, but don’t put it out there for all the world to see unless you want your life to be gossip fodder.
What do you think? Have you ever aired your dirty linen for all to see?