When I first left my husband, I felt lousy about myself. I felt I was not pretty. I felt I was not worthy of love or kindness, and I hated myself. These ideas had to go. but how was I going to do that? Gaining in self-esteem is a process, and I still have more to learn. Here are some things I have learned over the years.
Take Better Care of Yourself This means getting enough sleep, eating right and getting out there and doing something physical. I learned that the first step towards feeling better was to treat my body better. Getting more sleep helped, so did easing away from the Doritos. I got outside and played with my boy. It all helped
Do Something Nice For Someone Else When I first moved back home with Dad, the house was a wreck. On Sunday, when my son was not with me, I would take a project on in the house. One week it was soaking the blinds in ammonia, Another week it was cleaning every glass surface. It was a nice thing to do for my Dad who could not do it, and the house got clean.
Call A Friend and Catch Up With Them When I call a friend and see what is going on with them, it gives me perspective on my own life. Hearing what is going on in a friend’s life makes the world a much less lonely place. I have also found that it really helps me to think about someone else and their problems instead of my own.
Take Care Of the Outside One of the first things I did when I left was got my hair cut and did my hair color over. I felt better right away. For an immediate (but temporary) boost, nothing beats getting your outside appearance taken care of.
Make a New Friend When my son was young, we went to the park every single day. There were other mothers there, and it was intimidating to talk to them. I did eventually say hi, and got to be friends with some of them. This was one of the best things that I did for myself. I saw that none of us are perfect, and that I could meet new people. This is the hardest thing to do sometimes, but it had the biggest benefits.
What about you? What are the things you do to boost your self-esteem?