Have you ever felt like you were in a twilight zone? That things were so surreal that you wished you would just wake up and find out it was just a nightmare? That was how things went last week. It got me thinking about what it means to have people you can go to when life gets turned on its head. I kept wishing I would wake up. That never happened, and for me some weeks the truth is stranger than fiction.
I am always so hesitant to ask for help. The big reason I have difficulty asking for help is that I feel my problems are not so important. There are other things in life besides me and my problems, so I keep many major problems to myself. This is not healthy.
We walked up to the house Saturday after a day of shopping at the mall. We saw the police lights and wondered if there was yet another fight at the bar next door.
Not quite. There was a car, smashed up against our stairs, blocking our way into our house. The bottom three stairs are smashed pretty bad, and there is motor oil all over the walkway leading to the house. One of the officers told me since there is no back or side entrance, my dwelling is illegal. Just what I want to hear when my eight year old is getting upset because there are injured people at the scene and I need to get him in the house away from the accident.
I sent out a very general tweet about not feeling great, and got a really mixed response. One follower told me to focus on the good in my life. Another one told me “get over it: and yet another empathized with me and linked me to her blog post about how she deals when her life is falling apart.
It got me thinking – when is “get over it” legit advice and when is it a brushoff? There are times that I do need to get over certain things, and then there are other times when action is needed.
Today, I am taking action. I will be calling the Building Department in my town and reporting the broken stairs and the fact that this house does not have two entrances. Empowerment is not just a fun word – it requires action.
Are you just “getting over it” or are you taking action?