Most mornings before the day gets started, I go on Facebook to see what is going on with my friends. Imagine my surprise when I find my friend Ameena Falchetto talking about someone tweeting her post but also adding in a hashtag of #sexy in the tweet. She was shocked and offended, rightly so. She is a businesswoman. She is not on social media to hook up. Sexy is not a word that belongs in a tweet about her blog post.
This is beyond inappropriate.This kind of objectification is insane. It needs to stop. We need to teach men that this kind of treatment is not acceptable. Would you want your sister talked to like she was a piece of meat? Of course not. Then why perpetrate it? Even when you say you are “complimenting” us you diminish us by making it about our looks and not our brains.
Women have many roles in society – businesswomen, mothers, wives, girlfriends, but we are NOT your personal Barbie dolls. You want to praise us? Praise our smarts, our wit, our grace. Leave our looks out of it. Why should it matter if a woman is sexy or not? Would a man praise another man in this manner? Absolutely not. Why then is it okay to praise a woman that way?
If you would not say it to a woman’s face in an office setting, then you should not tweet it either. Would you call a female co-worker sexy? Of course not. She would at best tell the other workers that you make her uncomfortable. She could also go to her boss or to HR if she thinks you are a creep. For some reason, our common sense leaves us when we get online. We say things to others on a screen we would never say to their face.
We must remember that what we say online affects not only the person you say it to, but the people around them as well. This kind of commenting needs to stop. We are women, we are your equals and we are NOT your Barbie dolls.
What do you think? Do you call women you know are married or in a relationship sexy?