We are all human. Not one of us is perfect. Some of us have more “baggage” than others. The challenge lies not in the fact that everyone has problems, the real difficulty comes when we try to judge others without all the facts.
This is why gossip hurts so much. So many comments get taken out of context. Lives and careers can be ruined by someone who does not know or understand the whole story.
A few years ago, I had my heart broken by someone I thought was the love of my life. What made matters worse was that a hot three weeks later he began to date someone that I knew casually.
This became a source of not only heartache, but biting gossip.
There is an old saying that “if you are pointing a finger at someone you have three fingers pointing back at you” this means if you see a flaw in someone, there is a good chance you have that same flaw.
People who live in glass houses should not throw stones.
The most important thing that I try to remember is that I have no idea where someone else is coming from. I may know some of his or her life, but I will never know the whole story unless they want my input.
If a friend comes to me looking for comfort or advice, it is up to me to listen without judgment. It is my responsibility to keep the conversation private unless it is common knowledge.
I have to remember that I have made plenty of mistakes, and that if I have the chance to help someone it is a privilege and not my birthright.
Before picking up that stone and hurling it at someone, ask yourself what your motives are. What are you trying to accomplish by gossiping about someone?
Do you gossip about others? If you do, are you aware of the harm it causes?