This Christmas, my boyfriend gave me a promise ring. We talked for a while about what it means to be in each other’s lives, and that we want to grow old together. The ring is so sweet and pretty. It is an arrow with a heart shaped ruby as the tip. Getting the ring was confirmation that we are building a life and that our search is over. The pieces of our life fit together.
This had me shedding tears of pure happiness. I finally met someone who loves me for who I am, not what I have or can give.
We discussed the fact that we will be getting engaged sometime in the coming year, most likely before spring begins. That got me thinking about what it means to truly commit with a full heart and no reservations. It can make me a little scared when I think about the fact that we are going to eventually get married, but I know that is normal and to be expected. If a person doesn’t think about how serious marriage is, they have no business doing that if you ask me.
No one is perfect. We all have funny habits and things that are not going to change, the question then becomes-can I live with these habits?
Yes. Neither one of us is perfect, but we are well suited to each other. We compliment each other in many ways. Learning to accept one another as we are is a tremendous relief. Growing up, I often felt that I was never enough all on my own. Either that, or that my personality had to undergo major changes to be accepted. These days, worrying about that acceptance is not a priority. I like myself enough now to relax if a person doesn’t think much of me.
That process has been helped along by loving someone who loves me in return.
The wonderful part is that now there is someone alongside me sharing in the good and the bad of life. I look forward to the day when we do take that plunge. I won’t be going it alone.
I promise to love you more each passing day.