My Mom passed away on March 31, 2005. We had a stormy relationship for a long time, but that all changed with a phone call. Our relationship changed permanently when I told my Mom I was pregnant.
She already had three grandchildren from my older brother, but none from me. When I got pregnant, she began to call me, just to see how I was doing. She never did that before. Mom was not a phone person. Who are you and what have you done with my Mother? My Mom was changed, and the change was for the better.
I was due in November of 2002. My Mom was born on Thanksgiving, and she was hoping my son would be born on her birthday. He was born on the 16th, not the 23rd. Mom was excited anyway, and was a frequent visitor at the hospital.
She fell in love with my son right away too. She held him and sang to him. She called him “Mr. Adorable” and everything he did was cute. He could do no wrong. When I got home, Mom and Dad would visit with me and the baby at least once a week, more if they felt up to it.
We did not always have a good relationship, and I was happy for the chance to make amends to her for being a rotten daughter for most of her life. I had the chance when I got older to make amends to her, and the few years before she died, we were very close.
She was not so fast with hugs, but as I got older, she gave me something better. I was the black sheep of the family for many years. One Mother’s Day, it was probably 2003, she was watching me play with my son and she said “You are a great Mother and I am proud of you.”
I hope I continue to make you proud Mom, Happy Mother’s Day.