The value of a relationship is in direct proportion to the time that you invest in the relationship. – Brian Tracy
We have all head the advice “never treat someone like a priority who treats you like an option” this is the single hardest piece of advice for me to take sometimes. I tend to make excuses for poor behavior, so I just say “he hasn’t seen me because he’s so busy” or “his job is really stressing him out right now” I have news for you – are you ready?
He’s just not that into you. I read this book and I love it. I do not make one cent if you buy it.
I know you didn’t want to hear that right? Tough. Its the truth, you know it, and so do I. We both know when we meet someone who is into us. They do whatever it takes to be with us. They call us at least once a day, just to say hi. When they have to cancel plans, they offer an alternative right away and are truly sorry to cancel on us.
The ones who treat us as options could not care less what we want. Our time gets canceled without a second thought. They want to see us, at 2 in the morning after a bar crawl with their buddies. Then they want to come over full of “I’m sorry I didn’t see you sooner.” or worse, professing their undying love.
Don’t buy it – will they still love you in the cold light of day once they sober up? I doubt it.
How do I know this? I fell for this, and similar one time too many. I have been that person trying to rationalize inexcusable behavior. I was the one blaming myself for not being sexy/pretty/smart enough to capture a man’s imagination.
It never occurred to me that he might just be THE WRONG MAN. That is way too simple. There has to be more to it, right?
Nope. I have learned this again and again, when you meet the right person, making them a priority is not hard. By no means am I suggesting shirking your responsibilities, or anything along those lines. What I am suggesting is that when you want to be with someone, you find time to see them. No, you make time. You make it happen because you want to.
So, are you still sitting around waiting for the phone to ring? I hope not. In the day of social media, email, unlimited text messaging, Skype and all the other ways to keep in touch, I sure hope you are not waiting around with baited breath for him to call you.
Because he is never going to.
Why would you want someone that treats you like an option when you can have someone who treats you like a priority?