This post is inspired in part by a phone conversation last night.
Many times when I am struggling with something, I have forgotten that feelings are not real. They cannot hurt me. I have heard the saying “feelings aren’t facts” and more times than not, forget that I know that. The ego is so powerful that it wants us to not remember the things we instinctively know. My ego in particular does not want me to seek help for anything. then I can play the victim that much better.
It really comes down to how we look at things.
Emotional pain is also an illusion. No one can hurt me with what they say unless I give them that power. I forget this often, and as a result often give my power away. Then I wonder why I am an emotional wreck. Reminding myself I am human and will make mistakes is fine. I may trip over this one particular rock many times in a day. The days that I manage to not be ruled by my emotions are always better for me. I have an awful tendency to jump without looking or thinking.
When I stay in the moment, I don’t have this issue.
I was reminded again about meditation.it can be tough for me to meditate since I am so hyper. I often forget to take care of myself. I come last on a long list of things to do. I need to take more time for myself, and meditating may actually help clear my head. I have some difficulty being in the moment, so anything that can help me to slow time is a good thing. I tend to keep going and going. Lately I am a human doing instead of a human being.
Do you think your feelings are real? How do you cope when you are overwhelmed?