If you have ever been friends with someone who is your total opposite then you know a bit about how to “disagree without being disagreeable.” I have one person in my life who sees things very opposite from the way I do. Looking at things in a different way has taught me a lot about how to disagree and has opened me up to the concept that maybe we both are right. There does not have to be a winner all the time.
I have always tried to state my opinion on things in a polite manner, but Lori got me thinking about it yesterday over on her blog. She has a post about disagreeing and it got me to realize we don’t all think the same. That is not a bad thing. It is when we devolve into name-calling and insults that I tend to go away and never want to come back.
I have taken a very contrary to popular opinion stance on the “Twitter unfollow” experiments that many A-list bloggers are doing these days. I think the move is pure crap and that they could eliminate spammers and crap messages by using other Twitter apps designed to help you get rid of garbage.
This post is not about that. What this post is about is the herd mentality. As much as we say we are not sheep, when someone comes along with a different view than what the majority thinks, that person is very likely going to get their head handed to them.
Don’t believe me? Try it. Disagree with someone popular and see what happens. Some will discuss things with you in a calm manner, while others will call you stupid or insane.
When I was young, what I wanted or what I thought was of no consequence. My opinion was not only not welcome, it was not respected. Even if you don’t agree, if you look at an issue through someone else’s lens you may see things that you missed originally.
What about you? Can you handle disagreement? Or do you go on the attack?